What A Week!

Wow back at work finally! On Wendsday I got a call from daycare about noon Nat had a stomach bug so I picked her up she seemed fine that night so I planned on going back to work then Nevaeh started throwing up. (the number one thing that terrorizes me about being a mother) . Uhhh and by Friday it was full fledged virus time at my house. That night Nic came to our rescue with bleach , pedialyte, groceries and every single thing he could find to nurse us all back to health and in the process caught the worst of it. So three trips to the ER and its Tuesday im back at work exhausted and Nic is probably on quarters for the next few days he was still miserable even last night.

Goodnews despite being sick etc. I took my midterm for Kinesiology and got an 80 !!! yay congrats to me :) Maybe I will celebrate with some wine this comming weekend.

So its also inauguration day the first day in office for President Obama. What does that mean for me? A democrat in office again, a minority at that. Does it mean that just maybe my kids will have healthcare after thier dad gets out of the military or will I just build a mountain of medical bills that will drain any opportunity to save my childrens college education. Does it mean less deployments for our military or does it just mean Nic will deploy to Afghanistan and not Iraq? but will it be for 6 , 12, 0r 18 months.

Also today is a historical day for me lol for those that know me its personal :) but wonderful and really very liberating. But one small vent when I was a military wife I was never informed of my resources! the marriage seminars did not exist or maybe my ex just made sure I never found out about them. When I look back at the failure known as my marriage, If I could do it all over again it sure would have been different. I would have gotten married for love and being in love not just because the army said we cant live off post. If I were to be a military wife again I would make sure to be involved and informed and utilize all of our resources to their full extent weekend seminars, balls I mean what girls doesn't like getting dressed up.

A lesson I have learned through this experience is no one can complete you a relationship is based on two whole people who can be themselves with eachother. Laugh when something is funny and hold them when they are sick. A partner should complement you not supplement you. And most definitely not be revolved solely on going to bars and getting hammered.

I have read a million books on marriage and saving relationships but I must say my first was doomed from the start. I feel relieved to be free from the emotional drain of being in a failing marriage to the freedom to accept real love even if that means re-evaluating even my current relationship and adapting to the different situations.